How Couples Can Use Internal Family Systems to Foster Financial Intimacy with Debra Kaplan and Rick Kahler

Our host Ed Coambs dives deeper into the complexities of financial therapy for couples in this powerful episode of Healthy Love and Money with esteemed guests, Debra Kaplan and Rick Kahler. As authors of the insightful book, Coupleship Inc., they share their extensive knowledge on fostering financial intimacy and understanding money's role in relationships. Together, they explore the power dynamics, power struggles, and the importance of balance and staying curious in money conversations.

 

They delve into the fascinating world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and its application to financial therapy. Debra and Rick reveal how IFS can provide a unique perspective on our relationships with money and the challenges that couples face. Moreover, they discuss the crucial differences between financial therapists and financial planners, and how IFS connects to money scripts.

 

Debra and Rick offer valuable insights on recognizing the signs of financial stress and utilizing financial therapy to build trust and cooperation in relationships. Learn how to understand the dynamics of family and couples' money, preventing and managing money-related stress, and fostering financial intimacy in your relationships.

 

Key Topics:

  • About Debra (02:38)
  • About Rick (04:28)
  • Couples Therapy and Relationships (06:58)
  • Language Around the IFS Theory (17:05)
  • IFS Separates Yourself from the Part (24:17)
  • Cognition and Emotion (30:15)
  • The Difference between Financial Planning and Financial Therapy (37:46)
  • Rick and Debra’s Parting Pieces of Advice (47:40)

 

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