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Why Healing Your Trauma May Improve Your Personal Finances

You may be wondering what trauma has to do with your personal finances.

Or you may already have some sense that these two things are connected but you have not been able to explore the relationship between your own trauma and your personal finances.

Your historical trauma and personal finances are two very large, complex, and dynamic areas of your life. Ones that can not be ignored for long without suffering significant consequences.

Finances and Trauma

Trauma inevitably impacts your...

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12 Ways Money Shame Impacts Your Finances

You know that feeling when you're going to buy something and you start to feel self-conscious?

You might not be able to afford the item, or think it's a waste of money.

This is a result of Money Shame
Money shame is the reason why people often say no to themselves, depriving themselves of opportunities in life.

This blog post will explore 12 ways financial shame impacts your finances.

Money shame is the fear or anxiety that results from judging yourself for how much money you...

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How The Media Creates Money Shame

money shame May 18, 2021

Assumptions about people based on their finances are pervasive in the media. 

Money is often seen as a stand-in for the type of person someone is. 

For example, we’re all familiar with the miserly and wealthy Ebenezer Scrooge and his heart-of-gold but poor employee Bob Cratchit. Due to portrayals like this, many people make assumptions about others based on their finances. 

Money shame is a frequent result. 

Assumptions About Character Based on Finances

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6 Ways To Heal Money Shame

money shame May 10, 2021

Do you feel shame about the amount of money that you make?

Money shame is a feeling of guilt, inadequacy, or embarrassment due to having too much or too little money.

Everyone feels money shame sometimes. It deeply impacts your relationship with money. 

In this blog, we'll give you 6 ways of healing your feelings of shame when it comes to handling your finances and interact with money.

What is Shame?

There are three ways shame can show up in your life:

  • Shame about who you are...
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What Is Money Shame?

money shame shame May 05, 2021

Financial shame is an experience that almost everyone has. It's the feeling of shame for having too much or too little money. Money shame can be paralyzing and end up creating problems in your financial decisions.

What is Shame?

Shame, in its simplest definition, is a feeling of being unworthy, unloveable, and not good enough. Shame represents isolation, rejection, and incredible physical pain.

Just the mention of shame alone is enough for some of us to experience shame.

Shame itself is a...

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Disorganized Attachment Style - Signs and How To Overcome It

The disorganized attachment style is a mixture of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, which are both insecure attachment styles.

Disorganized attachment can lead to relationships that are unstable, finances that are chaotic or nonexistent, work that is inconsistent or poorly done, parenting behaviors that lack consistency and focus. 

How a Disorganized Attachment Style Develops

Usually, a person with this style has experienced some form of childhood trauma. This often takes the...

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What Is Secure Attachment?

The secure attachment style is characterized by being able to trust others while also trusting oneself enough not to need constant reassurance from others.

You know what your boundaries are and generally don't worry about whether someone else will cross them unless you've given them permission to.

How a Secure Attachment Style Develops

A secure attachment style develops when a child is raised in an environment where they feel loved and cared for by their parent or earliest...

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Avoidant Attachment Style - Signs and How To Overcome It

People with an avoidant attachment style are more comfortable with independence and autonomy than others. 

These individuals tend to feel uncomfortable in close relationships, which can have a negative impact on their partners and children. They find it difficult to trust others.

Although they want emotional closeness or intimacy, they are easily overwhelmed and so they push it away. 

Having an avoidant attachment style is not a disease and is not a lack of character. It’s...

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Anxious Attachment Style - Signs and How To Overcome It

An anxious attachment style is characterized by a need for constant reassurance, control, and dependency. Anxious people are always scanning the environment looking for clues that their needs will not be met. They have trouble trusting others and often find themselves feeling stressed or worried when things go wrong.

Having an anxious attachment style is not a disease and is not a lack of character. It's an adaptive way that you learned to cope with your upbringing.

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How an Anxious...

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What Is Attachment Style?

Your attachment style impacts every area of your life.

It's formed in early childhood due to your earliest experiences with your primary caregivers.

It results in attachment behaviors that become a template by which you try to get your needs met in all of your other relationships as an adult.

There's a strong relationship between attachment and your happiness and satisfaction in adult relationships

What Is Attachment Style?

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