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The secure attachment style is characterized by being able to trust others while also trusting oneself enough not to need constant reassurance from others. 

You know what your boundaries are and generally don't worry about whether someone else will cross them unless you've given them permission to.

How a Secure Attachment Style Develops

A secure attachment style develops when a child is raised in an environment where they feel loved and cared for. 

A mother’s responsiveness to...

People with an avoidant attachment style are more comfortable with independence and autonomy than others. 

These individuals tend to feel uncomfortable in close relationships, which can have a negative impact on their partners and children. They find it difficult to trust others.

Although they want emotional closeness or intimacy, they are easily overwhelmed and so they push it away. 

Having an avoidant attachment style is not a disease and is not a lack of character. It’s...

An anxious attachment style is characterized by a need for constant reassurance, control, and dependency. Anxious people are always scanning the environment looking for clues that their needs will not be met. They have trouble trusting others and often find themselves feeling stressed or worried when things go wrong.

Having an anxious attachment style is not a disease and is not a lack of character. It's an adaptive way that you learned to cope with your upbringing.

How an Anxious...

It impacts every area of your life. It's formed in early childhood due to your earliest experiences with your primary caregivers. The attachment behaviors that result then become a template by which you try to get your needs met in all of your other relationships as an adult. There's a strong relationship between attachment and your happiness and satisfaction in adult relationships. 

What Is Attachment Style?

      Gift-giving is a part of romantic relationships. Sometimes they are material gifts like jewelry, flowers, or a trip to a favorite vacation spot. Other times they may be non-material gifts such as emotional closeness, improved physical health, or financial wellbeing. I discussed these gifts and the benefits of giving them, in my recent LinkedIn article, Love and Money are in the AIR: IT'S Valentine’s Day.

      When you incorporate these three things...

      In relationships, giving gifts is important. By offering a gift to your partner you are showing your appreciation for what they bring to your life. It shows them how you value them and want to please them. Whether small gifts or large ones, they are all investments in your relationship. 

     While showing your love and appreciation is meaningful and important, what happens when you miss the mark? It happens to us all at some point, but what can you do...

     We have discussed attachment styles in the last few posts. In my LinkedIn article, Determining How You’re Attached in Love and Money, I did an overview about how the attachment theory (which is the study of relationships) determines how you view things, how you react in situations, and how you show up in your relationships. I also explored how by understanding these four styles and identifying them in yourself and your intimate partner, you can more clearly...

      In psychology, the study of relationships is called the Attachment Theory. Defined within the theory, there are four Attachment Styles – secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. These styles show patterned ways you interact in relationships. They begin to develop at birth and run throughout your lives impacting all areas of your relationships. Today we will be looking at your financial life and how your attachment styles will dictate, in part, how you and your...

     I have always been puzzled by the saying “New Year, New You.” We are not new because the calendar flips from one year to the next. We are the same people as we were the previous year. That said, we begin each new year by setting goals and intentions and taking stock of where we are, and where we would like to be. 

     When you do your annual assessment, I would encourage you to spend some time with your partner reflecting on how you sit...