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How to Give Gifts that Improve Your Relationship and Keep on Giving

      Valentine’s Day has passed. Hopefully, you made it through the stress of picking that “perfect gift” that touched your partner’s heart. Or maybe you missed the mark. I understand, choosing that gift can be challenging. Either way, I have a suggestion. Take the opportunity to have a re-do. 

     The entire month of February (or any month for that matter) can be a time to celebrate the romantic connections we have with our...

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How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Finances

      In psychology, the study of relationships is called the Attachment Theory. Defined within the theory, there are four Attachment Styles – secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. These styles show patterned ways you interact in relationships. They begin to develop at birth and run throughout your lives impacting all areas of your relationships. Today we will be looking at your financial life and how your attachment styles will dictate, in part, how you and your...

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How to Improve Your Financial Self-Care Routine with Mind/Body Awareness

        Financial self-care is something you may not have heard about or fully understand. Most of us recognize self-care as doing things that improve our physical or mental health. Financial self-care is similar. You need to take the time to review your financial situation and figure out how money works in your life. Your finances need your attention and to be cared for in the same way as your body and mind, so that you can reset the financial area of your mind to...

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How to Avoid Holiday Stress with Financial Self-Care

       We are just days away from the holidays, though this year may be different with the pandemic, the chaos and holiday stress will likely remain. The financial impact, family expectations, and social gatherings can all be overwhelming. Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be as stressful as you may think. You will be glad to hear, I am not suggesting budgeting, although that can help. I am referring to practicing financial self-care. It is about becoming aware and...

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How to Overcome Your Barriers to Financial Well-being

        In my previous posts on Financial Wellbeing, I have defined what it is, discussed the practical and emotional side of finances, and explained the three stages of financial wellbeing. By now (assuming you’ve been following along) you should have a clearer idea about your relationship with money and which state you fall in on your journey to your financial wellbeing. The question is, now what? What can you do to get where you want to be?

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What Are The Three States of Financial Well-being?

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         It is a process to improve your financial wellbeing and takes time and effort to get to the place where you are at ease with your money— where you feel secure in your future and happy with yourself and your financial situation. At times, before you get there, you can find yourself in a place of overwhelm. You may feel like you have failed and those voices in your head, the ones that can be your biggest cheerleader or your worst critic, maybe beating you...

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Financial Well-being and Your Emotions, What You Need To Know

          As a financial therapist, I want to educate my clients on what financial wellbeing is, and what may be blocking them from reaching their financial goals. Financial planners and other industry experts have plenty to say about the topic, but I’m going to share from my perspective. In this post, I will explain more about how emotions, thoughts, and past experiences create our money relationships and impact our financial wellbeing.

How do we define...

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What Does Shame Have to Do With My Financial Well-being?

        I can tell you as a Financial Therapist one of the key barriers I see to my clients’ financial wellbeing is SHAME. Professionally speaking, I consider shame to be the most destructive psychological forces we deal with as humans. The intense negative emotions it causes makes us feel unworthy, which affects our self-esteem, our relationships, how we generally show up in the world, and our financial wellbeing. So where does shame stem from?

What causes shame and...

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What is Financial Well-being and Why Do I Need It?

        When people talk about financial wellbeing, many times they talk about their wealth, their portfolio, or their financial security. However, financial wellbeing is more than that. It has to do with your psychological and spiritual relationship with money and how it impacts your financial decisions. These aspects of financial wellbeing can be influenced by your family, but also from your cultural and religious background. To find a sense of confidence in money...

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