The past weekend has been unlike any other in my life. In one day, I conducted a wedding for the first time, and I celebrated 16 years of marriage. To say Friday the 16th of September 2022 was magical is an understatement. Reflecting on this weekend, I see some valuable connections to the ex...

     Couples can get stuck between two good choices. Recently I heard from Rebecca and Charlie, who were stuck on whether to save money towards remodeling their kitchen or taking a large family vacation. This money dilemma is what I like to classify as a good problem to have, but it is a real pro...

Reading this blog post will not be the easiest thing to read. You will likely start to squirm in your chair, and maybe your palms will even get sweaty. But if you stick with me, this will be worth your time.    The reality of financial infidelity and secrecy is a significant warning sign that y...

Do you have attachment wounds? They are the emotional and relational scars that form in childhood from our relationships with our caregivers when they do not have to ability to recognize or respond to our childhood needs. Unfortunately, most of us never learn to heal from attachment wounds as adu...

Many couples are reluctant to talk about their finances even after marriage. Still, financial intimacy has many benefits in the long run if you can foster it no matter where you are on your relationship journey.   So let’s take another step toward getting financially naked with your partner.  ...

Have you considered that If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, you may be at greater risk of being financially vulnerable as an adult?    A recent study published in the American Journal of Family Economic Issues showed that people who had experienced one or more types of adverse childhood ex...

Trying to navigate the financial aspects of marriage can be intimidating, especially if you and your spouse come from different social class backgrounds.   Social class creates an invisible barrier to intimacy that prevents people from getting the most out of their relationship and financial s...

How do you ensure that you and your partner have emotional well-being?  Financial intimacy goes hand-in-hand with emotional well-being, so knowing how to foster emotional well-being can be the missing link between you and your partner’s finances. It means being emotionally prepared to understand...

How do you feel about your family’s financial life? Family relationships around money can be messy. If your financial life doesn’t look like the Jones’, you’re not alone – most of us grew up in families with some sort of dominant financial philosophy that probably did not match the socially desir...

What does the brain have to do with financial intimacy? Much more than you might imagine.    It is a reciprocal relationship. Let me introduce you to a wonderful area of science called Interpersonal Neurobiology. This area of science draws from multiple areas of understanding how relationships ...