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How to Resolve Money Fights By Understanding Your Money Stories

In my previous posts, we have covered the family-of-origin and how they influence your money stories, how these stories contribute to money fights, and how these fights do not have to be normal inside your marriage or relationships (even if culture may have us believing otherwise). We also touched on how everyone can use the Family Money Tree to identify their money stories, whether single or in a relationship, plus the benefits of doing so. 

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How Your Family Money Tree can Help You Understand Money Stories and Improve Your Financial Future

       Your money stories and beliefs start with your Family-Of-Origin, which encompasses everyone on your family tree, even great grandparents and step-relatives. It is possible these people were deceased before you were born, or have been absent from the family, and yet, they can have an impact on your money stories and beliefs. How? Think about a river. The water starts upstream, and flows downstream, leaves and twigs are picked up along the way. At some point,...

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Money Fights in Relationships, are They Normal?

       The topic of money in relationships is a touchy one, one that can lead to money fights. These fights are based on the feelings and emotions you have about money—sometimes called money stories. We all have them, though we may not know where they come from, and you and your partner likely have different money stories. When discussing money, you may believe that your money expectations and goals, are right and your partner’s wrong (and vice versa). This...

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The Original Sin, the Original Blessing, and Your Finances

money beliefs shame Sep 29, 2020

When working with financial therapy clients, we delve deep into their emotions, where the emotions come from, and how they impact the client, relationships, and their financial future. We look at both the good and the bad, address them, and create a plan to move forward so they can find financial wellbeing and the security they desire. One barrier that often comes up is the theological teaching of original sin and the chronic shame this causes. With the theory of original sin we are taught...

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Money Beliefs And Family, How Do They Connect?

     

     Your first understanding about money and what it can, or cannot do, you’ve learned from your family system. That system includes parents, step-parents, siblings, step-siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins and the list goes on. Everyone within the system has an impact. Your group can be large or small, depending on your family structure. There can be a variety of relationship dynamics within that system, too - married, divorced,...

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What Expectations Have You Developed Around Money?

 

         We all have expectations about money, whether they are good or bad, but how do they develop? Where do they come from? It is unlikely you have a memory of how or where you got them from, but they are there in your mind and influencing what you think and feel about money.

         Your expectations begin from the time you are very young and they come first from your family system. Your family nurtures you, teaching...

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