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Do you feel shame about the amount of money that you make?

Money shame is a feeling of guilt, inadequacy, or embarrassment due to having too much or too little money.

Everyone feels money shame sometimes. It deeply impacts your relationship with money. 

In this blog, we'll give you 6 ways of healing your feelings of shame when it comes to handling your finances and interact with money.

What is Shame?

There are three ways shame can show up in your life:

• Shame about who you are...

Financial shame is an experience that almost everyone has. It's the feeling of shame for having too much or too little money. Money shame can be paralyzing and end up creating problems in your financial decisions.

What is Shame?

Shame, in its simplest definition, is a feeling of being unworthy, unloveable, and not good enough. Shame represents isolation, rejection, and incredible physical pain.

Just the mention of shame alone is enough for some of us to experience shame.

Shame itself is a...

The disorganized attachment style is a mixture of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, which are both insecure attachment styles.

Disorganized attachment can lead to relationships that are unstable, finances that are chaotic or nonexistent, work that is inconsistent or poorly done, parenting behaviors that lack consistency and focus. 

How a Disorganized Attachment Style Develops

Usually, a person with this style has experienced some form of childhood trauma. This often takes the...

The secure attachment style is characterized by being able to trust others while also trusting oneself enough not to need constant reassurance from others.

You know what your boundaries are and generally don't worry about whether someone else will cross them unless you've given them permission to.

How a Secure Attachment Style Develops

A secure attachment style develops when a child is raised in an environment where they feel loved and cared for by their parent or earliest...

People with an avoidant attachment style are more comfortable with independence and autonomy than others. 

These individuals tend to feel uncomfortable in close relationships, which can have a negative impact on their partners and children. They find it difficult to trust others.

Although they want emotional closeness or intimacy, they are easily overwhelmed and so they push it away. 

Having an avoidant attachment style is not a disease and is not a lack of character. It’s...

An anxious attachment style is characterized by a need for constant reassurance, control, and dependency. Anxious people are always scanning the environment looking for clues that their needs will not be met. They have trouble trusting others and often find themselves feeling stressed or worried when things go wrong.

Having an anxious attachment style is not a disease and is not a lack of character. It's an adaptive way that you learned to cope with your upbringing.

How an Anxious...

Your attachment style impacts every area of your life.

It's formed in early childhood due to your earliest experiences with your primary caregivers.

It results in attachment behaviors that become a template by which you try to get your needs met in all of your other relationships as an adult.

There's a strong relationship between attachment and your happiness and satisfaction in adult relationships. 

What Is Attachment Style?

Counseling and coaching are quite similar, and yet they fulfill somewhat different needs in helping with relationship issues.

When seeking help as a couple it's important to understand the difference between a coach and a counselor so that you can make the choice that's best for you and your partner.

Coaching tends to be action and goal-oriented which looks at how current behaviors impact the future. Counseling tends to be a bit deeper, looking at past influences on present behavior, and...

Online couples therapy and marriage counseling are just as effective as traditional therapy sessions and in-person counseling according to research studies. Online relationship therapy has many advantages including convenient therapy appointments, affordability, and increased choice of counselors.

With COVID-19 keeping most people at home over the past year the thought of online therapy and coaching has become more and...

Marriage counseling can be a highly effective way to help solve relationship issues. One study found that 48% of couples had improved relationships or recovered completely 5-years after therapy. Other studies suggest certain therapies are up to 75% effective in improving relationships. 

Maybe you've experienced increased amounts of conflict with your partner, disagreement about core values, decreased marital satisfaction, poor communication...